In our society there is not much of an initiation into man hood and it can be confusing. Most men are actually more emotional than women as they hide supress and deny their feelings. Sadly, the wars around the world has impacted our men and passed genetically down the generations. First the men in the war (majority of the gender) would form addictions to take their mind of what was happening or to fill in the boredom.
Then after returning home might take the experience and pass this onto other family members, with each generation forming and array of addictions. The general order I hear is religion - smoking -violence –drugs – alcohol – isolation – gambling – food – video games and now spiritualism. Please remember that an addiction is something that we have no control over and we do these as a reaction not a choice. Anything can form an addiction, just look at cleaning, OCD, lying.
From experience 90% of people as an adult will react emotionally some something from an emotional experience between 13-17. The sooner someone understands their triggers and blocks in their life the more powerful and stable they will become. Reflect upon when you were around the age between 13-17, what did you experience that may have impacted your emotional life? As this is where people learn their emotional coping skills and stuck with most people for life. You cannot just attend therapy, or talk about it to change these patterned behaviours. This is exactly why Mark developed the 7 steps in his book 'Unlocking The POWER Within, for true authentic change.
As adults many times we talk about change, might know exactly what triggers us in life but do not know the benefits of the change. An example can be weight loss, without having lost the weight, it is hard to know the energy, size, activities, alertness, acceptance etc benefits until it happens. It can also take years to accept the change if you have had the emotional issues for some time. Drinking, smoking, intercourse, eating, gaming, gambling etc can all be an emotional reaction.
If you can say no and only do these once a week randomly, then less chance of an emotional addiction. Partake more than a few times a week for a month or so then there is something hidden underneath. Please note there is not always a problem with an emotional addiction, you just need to know why you do it and how it affects you͛ it is then a choice, whether that be beneficial or not.
Mark recommends to start with his first book Emotional Resilience, as this will provide a lifelong set of tools and strategies to cope and deal with almost all emotional issues though life. From there a Soul 2 Soul session would be ideal, finding out what is trapped in the subconscious, that our soul is crying out to be dealt with.